I been busy with my home and things over the last few months. I have been working on so many projects with other entrepreneurs, and finishing the book I am co authoring in. In the meanwhile, life is happening. My kids are growing, I am growing too.
With my growth, comes with ideas for this blog. During the holidays we were busy packing and trying to have a normal holiday. Things were moving fast. I try really hard to slow down and enjoy those “moments” we have in our day-to-day routines. One of the days that caught my attention was my son, Ranger. His behavior on a certain day, when he wore a specific outfit. I noticed a change in his normal behavior, I realized it was his outfit he was wearing. I even asked him about his outfit. He absolutely loved it. The funny story was I had purchased this outfit on clearance for a few bucks, because it was cute. It sat in the closet for almost a year until it finally fit, I love to shop that way for my kids. . . saves a ton of money!!
Here is my six-dollar outfit that made a little boy come out of his shell. When I asked him about the outfit, he said he felt special, it made him feel good. He loved his “Special” outfit. I could tell he was happier that day, smiled a lot and felt confident. He wanted to wear it everyday after….
This child has a mother who is a clothing junkie. I will admit, I have a lot of clothes. I love to have new items on the regular…I will admit, after a 3 or 4th wear, I usually will sell it. I resale them to fuel my habit of not wearing an item more than a handful of times. Resale is a great way to keep your wardrobe fresh, if you take good care of it.
I always have known that the clothes we wear send a message to the world. Every time we leave the home, we are “out there”. We are now vulnerable to the opinions of others. I have always felt like I dress for success, even as cliché as that sounds. After the interaction with my son, I felt like I needed to look more into the science behind what we wear.
I knew there was some psychology about our wardrobe. I went out on the search for information on this subject. I was fascinated about what I found, and I was right. We are what we wear. Not only on the outside of our bodies, but the inside as well. Our mental health and emotional well-being was being affected by what lies inside the closet.
The first thing I stumbled upon was clothing was used as a silent social status, since in modern times we do not have an actual “caste system”. Basically, we have created a silent system with our choice in style. This something that is happening whether we realize it or not. I personally did not even think about this, but then I began to think about trends… sparkly butt jeans…those were popular for a while…maybe still are. But the ladies had them, and they shined all day in those blingy jeans.
Now when it comes to how we feel, the positive aspects of what we wear become full circle. When we feel a certain way, we dress a certain way. So for example, if your feeling depressed the sweatpants may come out. When you’re at the top of your game you may feel like getting the short skirt out or the sun dress. Some of the studies done did show that we feel our clothes make us happy. We shop for things that look appealing to us, and overall naturally we all want to look nice. Also studies show, that HOW WE THINK, is linked to our clothing!!! So if you’re dressed nice and clean…vs…not showered and in sweatpants…how do you think you would think differently in each style of clothing?
Nicer clothing helps us open up to the world. When we take the time to take care of ourselves, the world will notice. Our clothes tell a tale about how we feel about ourselves, how we interact with other people and most importantly, they assist us in having more positive interactions. You are more likely to ask for that promotion in your amazing new shoes. It is a mental boost, and its a boost some of us desperately need. We need all the help in life we can get, this is something you can control.
After spending a few days looking up information on this subject, I decided I needed to share this. We have so many things we need to get done in a day, let’s do it in a beautiful outfit that flatters you, and makes you feel alive. I also will give kudos to my son Ranger, for reminding me that “special” clothes, are really that special.
Want to get started now? Get going, get into that closet. Try everything on. I MEAN EVERYTHING. If you do not feel like a “10” in that shirt, it HAS TO GO. This is an exercise I teach some of my mentor clients. IT WORKS. I know you will probably have some stuff that piles up because it’s a nine…but follow the rule. TENS ONLY. Once you get this done, for some will take weeks, you will begin to feel the difference in your TEN CLOTHES. Also, use this rule when you are shopping for new items! Don’t let anything get purchased that is not a “10”. Trust me. This is worth doing, and you’re doing it for YOU. In the end, it will be YOU, not your closet that is your best asset.